Home & Family: Parenting
Parenting Skills and Communications
I have learned through the years of training and application, as a child investigator and case worker, to assess a parent and or caregiver perform their parenting skills. I had to utilize the following observations:
A parent's expectation for the behavior of their child should be consistent to the child's age and developmental stages. There are different age limits during developmental stages. In terms of the child's age by months they are: 0-3, 3-6, 6-9, 9-14, and 14-24.
The child's ages by years are: 2-3, 3-4, 4-6, 6-12, and 13-18. These developmental stages include the physical, socio-emotional and intellectual capabilities of the child.
During these stages the parents, caregivers or professionals who interact with the child, should be effective communicators and listeners. The most rewarding way to build relationships with a child is via positive communications. This helps the child to develop their own self worth. Children base their views of themselves and the world by their daily experiences. Parents and caregivers must communicate in a way that relates to the age and interests of the child.
A means of providing positive communication is by sharing family stories or history.
Storytelling is a universal way for families to pass down important history, from generation to generation. Also depending on the setting, at home or in school, storytelling can teach children about other cultures.
On the same subject, which is our children, but a different perspective, sometimes when parenting skills are lacking it can create an environment of child abuse or neglect.
Not only parents can be child abusers. We have many people in our society for whatever their reasons, do and will abuse children. There are different types of abuse: physical, sexual, emotional and psychological. The latter two abuses listed are the most difficult to detect.
Although every person has the responsibility to report suspected child abuse or neglect, there are specific occupations that are required to do so. Persons who work in these occupations are called mandated reporters and must report suspected abuse.
The National Child Abuse & Neglect Hotline #: 1-800-422-4453.
Sometimes the world can be overwhelming for adults, so imagine how it must be for our children. By paying attention to and staying in constant communications with the children we can help them create a view of themselves and the world that is positive and healthy.
Informational Websites:
Parenting Skills and Communications
I have learned through the years of training and application, as a child investigator and case worker, to assess a parent and or caregiver perform their parenting skills. I had to utilize the following observations:
Basic child-care skills — health related hygiene, meeting health care needs, bathing, feeding and maintaining a schedule with the child.
Nurturing strategies to promote attachment — holding, cuddling, talking to or playing with the child.
Adequacy of supervision — does not leave child unsupervised (depending on the age), recognizes when the child is in a harmful situation and protects the child, the parent and or caregiver recognizes when their stress level affects the quality of care and they ask for help.
Ability to encourage child's development — plays interactively with child, provides toys that are age appropriate, communicates with the child about his or her play activities, and helps to stimulate the child's imagination.
Discipline strategies — uses the appropriate extent of discipline for the given situation, sets and enforces age appropriate limits, sets family rules and helps child to understand them.
Parent's expectations of the child — does not expect the child to act as an adult, understands the significant points of development for the child, parent is able to address and identify with the unique personalities and needs of each child.
Nurturing strategies to promote attachment — holding, cuddling, talking to or playing with the child.
Adequacy of supervision — does not leave child unsupervised (depending on the age), recognizes when the child is in a harmful situation and protects the child, the parent and or caregiver recognizes when their stress level affects the quality of care and they ask for help.
Ability to encourage child's development — plays interactively with child, provides toys that are age appropriate, communicates with the child about his or her play activities, and helps to stimulate the child's imagination.
Discipline strategies — uses the appropriate extent of discipline for the given situation, sets and enforces age appropriate limits, sets family rules and helps child to understand them.
Parent's expectations of the child — does not expect the child to act as an adult, understands the significant points of development for the child, parent is able to address and identify with the unique personalities and needs of each child.
A parent's expectation for the behavior of their child should be consistent to the child's age and developmental stages. There are different age limits during developmental stages. In terms of the child's age by months they are: 0-3, 3-6, 6-9, 9-14, and 14-24.
The child's ages by years are: 2-3, 3-4, 4-6, 6-12, and 13-18. These developmental stages include the physical, socio-emotional and intellectual capabilities of the child.
During these stages the parents, caregivers or professionals who interact with the child, should be effective communicators and listeners. The most rewarding way to build relationships with a child is via positive communications. This helps the child to develop their own self worth. Children base their views of themselves and the world by their daily experiences. Parents and caregivers must communicate in a way that relates to the age and interests of the child.
A means of providing positive communication is by sharing family stories or history.
Storytelling is a universal way for families to pass down important history, from generation to generation. Also depending on the setting, at home or in school, storytelling can teach children about other cultures.
On the same subject, which is our children, but a different perspective, sometimes when parenting skills are lacking it can create an environment of child abuse or neglect.
Not only parents can be child abusers. We have many people in our society for whatever their reasons, do and will abuse children. There are different types of abuse: physical, sexual, emotional and psychological. The latter two abuses listed are the most difficult to detect.
Although every person has the responsibility to report suspected child abuse or neglect, there are specific occupations that are required to do so. Persons who work in these occupations are called mandated reporters and must report suspected abuse.
The National Child Abuse & Neglect Hotline #: 1-800-422-4453.
Sometimes the world can be overwhelming for adults, so imagine how it must be for our children. By paying attention to and staying in constant communications with the children we can help them create a view of themselves and the world that is positive and healthy.
Informational Websites:
www.jimhopper.com Child abuse researcher & therapist with PHD in clinical psychology. (information retrieved from website)
www.trafford.com/06-3086 A story of a professional child advocate who was a victim of child abuse and overcame her adversities. Book Title: Don't Run Away Make A Way Queen by Mickey See-Asia.
Child Abuse Prevention Network — Sponsored by LifeNet, Inc — provides resources for professionals in child abuse and neglect. (information retrieved from website)
www.trafford.com/06-3086 A story of a professional child advocate who was a victim of child abuse and overcame her adversities. Book Title: Don't Run Away Make A Way Queen by Mickey See-Asia.
Child Abuse Prevention Network — Sponsored by LifeNet, Inc — provides resources for professionals in child abuse and neglect. (information retrieved from website)